WTF!!! From Identical Twin Boys To Brother And Sister

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18-year-old Nicole and Jonas Maines were born
identical twin boys. Nicole who was named Wyatt
at birth, recently made the brave decision to
undergo a sex reassignment surgery.

“Being a girl just felt right,” Nicole said “It felt like that’s what I was supposed to be, and I’ve never looked back. I’ve never felt
like I made the wrong decision. I’ve never
felt like I’m doing the wrong thing with my
life. I just knew this is exactly where I’m
supposed to be right now. I knew that I was
trans when I was 3 years old. Well, I didn’t
know trans because I didn’t know there was
a word for it, but I just knew that in my head
and my heart that I was supposed to be a
girl.”

For her parents Kelly and Wayne Maines, it was
puzzling at first.
“I knew that Nicole was different. I didn’t
know what it was. I didn’t know that she
was transgender at 3, I just knew she wasn’t
like the other twin,” said Kelly Maines. “She
played all the girl roles, she always wanted
to dress as a girl character, so I knew there
was something different about her. I just
made it a point of making sure that I could
do whatever I could do for her to get her
where she needed to be and also to know
she always had a safe place to be with me,”
Nicole’s father Wayne struggled with the idea of
letting go of one of his sons.
“When the twins were born I had these
dreams,” he said. “I already knew what deer
rifles I was going to buy, and by the time
they were 2 years old they were going to
have them. Football, basketball, everything
we thought about for me was ‘the boys.'”
He tried ignoring Wyatt’s desire to be different, but
over time he came to realize that this is what
Nicole wanted. When we let her go out in a dress,
and this kid beamed and was happier,” Wayne
Maines said. “Then I started to think about it, ‘man,
I gotta change who I am.’ … I had to dig deep into
my soul and say, ‘Hey what are you afraid of?’ …
You gotta dig deep and ask yourself, ‘How much
do you love your kid?’ and do the right thing.”
So Kelly and Wayne supported Wyatt in having
long hair and wearing girl’s clothing, and Nicole
wasn’t shy about telling people who she was.
When she was in first grade, Nicole said she would
go up to someone and say she was “a boy who
wants to be a girl.”
“I didn’t think there was anything wrong with
it,” Nicole said. “And of course, kids’ parents
were like freaking out and kids were like ‘Oh
cool, I like trucks.’ … it was just a thing that
came with my introduction.”
By the time she was in fourth grade, Nicole began
to think about changing her name from Wyatt to
something new she felt would be more of “a girl’s
name.” She started looking at TV characters that
resonated with her and settled on a character’s
name from one of her favorites.
“There was this character on a show called
Zoey 101,” she said. “It had Jamie Lynn
Spear, I think her name is and like one of
her classmates’ name was Nicole. And she
was just like really quirky and like fun. And I
was like, ‘oh she’s a lot like me. I’m a
Nicole.'”
By age 8, “Wyatt” was no longer, but by middle
school, Nicole said she was beginning to feel
ostracized by her classmates. “Kids would say
there’s something wrong with me,” she said. “And
I would come home crying on the bus like ‘Mom,
Dad I’m a freak. There’s something wrong with
me. This isn’t right.’ I’m like, ‘It feels right to me
but it can’t be right because people are telling me
that it’s not right.’ And my parents would tell me,
‘Listen, don’t listen to them. Be true to yourself.
This is who you are. Just be true to you.'”
Jonas was fiercely supportive of his sister during
this time. When I was a kid my dad told me to
look after her and to protect her and do what you
have to do,” he said. “So that was a huge
responsibility that I had to carry around for a lot of
years.” Then there was the school bathroom issue.
For most of her time in elementary school, Nicole
used the girl’s restroom without issue, until a
grandfather of one of her classmates complained to
school officials.
The Maines family filed and won a discrimination
lawsuit against their school district in Maine,
scoring a big human rights victory for trans kids.
The case changed Maine state law. It really did just
start out with me calling the Maine human rights
commission and going, ‘Hey – this is so not right’
and I never realized that it would ever spiral to
where it did,” Kelly Maines said.
Since the lawsuit, Nicole has been in the media
spotlight and her family has now become activists
for the transgender cause. They are the subject of
a new book called, “Becoming Nicole: The
Transformation of an American Family,” to be
released on Oct. 20.
It’s been a pivotal year for the transgender
movement, in part because of Caitlyn Jenner’s
coming out story. Her speech at the Espy Awards,
in particular when Jenner talked about trans youth,
struck a chord with Nicole. I’m like, absolutely,
because trans youth shouldn’t have to take it, they
should be able to go to school,” Nicole said.
“Trans kids, just kids in general, are not to be
looked upon by society through a magnifying
glass.”
Just a few days before her scheduled procedure,
Nicole talked about her decision to go through with
the surgery and called it her “light at the end of the
tunnel.” This is always what I needed,” she said.
“Over almost 18 years of life I’ve never thought
back of you know what no I don’t want surgery… I
just felt like this is that final piece of the puzzle
where my body is finally going to match what’s
happening in my head and my heart.” Now Nicole
and her brother Jonas are in the middle of their
first semester of college. It will be the first time the
twins will be on their own.
These days, the most pressing thing on Nicole’s
mind is passing midterms. “I’m happy,” she said.
“I like it. I mean I got my hair done today, I got my
make-up on. I’m happy! I mean, I’m Nicole. I’m
incredibly happy.”

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